I find myself increasingly intolerant of people who try to drag me in to their drama. I am happy to listen to my friends and to pray with and for them and to do my best to advise and encourage them and yes, share in their struggles, helping to carry their burdens. But there are some people who just want to debate and argue on points we disagree on. Some people just like the process of engaging in conflict for the sake of argument. Like playing devil’s advocate just for the thrill if debate. I am not one of those people and I abhor the drama those people bring into my life. I don’t let it steal my joy. I figure out what they are doing pretty quickly and then do what I can to avoid lengthy conversations with them. Does that happen to you? My problem is that if someone takes up an argument with me, I WILL argue. I WANT to win the argument too and that pride in me is ugly and unGodly. And it eats at me after the conversation is over. I have a cousin who is maddeningly argumentative. His life is a train wreck and I let it consume me for a long time. I had to disconnect from him. I can’t let miserable and angry people drag me in to their anger and misery. It’s true that misery loves company but I choose joy. And I don’t like to blame my deficiencies on MS but I have limited energy and what energy I have I need to use wisely. I choose not to use it up on senseless debate with people who just like to argue. There’s never a conclusion. They just like to disagree!
Sorry for the rant. I spent the afternoon trying to avoid one of those people but she would not be ignored by me today.
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